Not many people know that there exists an international men’s day to highlight the challenges that men face in society. Yes, women are not the only oppressed creatures on the land. Men are also victimized in various ways and the worst part is no one talks about their suffering.
What is International Men’s Day
International men’s day is not celebrated as widely as international women’s day, but at least it exists. The origin of this day dates back to February 24, 1969 when New York Times, reported that men are privately protesting to mark February 23 as International Men’s Day. But, it was History lecturer at University of the West Indies in Trinidad Tabago, named Dr Jerome Teelucksingh, who founded the day on November 19.
Now, many countries of the world including Australia, Canada, America also celebrate the event. Various forums, NGOs and organizations talk about the issues that men face and pay tribute to their contributions to this world.
What Social Media Is Saying
Well International Men’s day is trending on social media. What users have to say about the problems that male members of the society are facing is very shocking. While women are deemed extra weak creature who shouldn’t do daring tasks men are expected much more in term of their success. Prevalent myths and stereotypes don’t allow them to exhibit delicacy as it will be against their manhood.
So, very first right that men on their day should claim is the right to cry. It is the right to show sensitiveness and to show feelings and emotions without the fear of being labeled as coward.
Perhaps this the reason why folks are highlighting the stress and depression as the major issue that men face because they are expected too much.
So mental illness is something that men of our time are suffering.
Today is #InternationalMensDay
Men suffer with their mental health and live with mental illness.
In the UK 84 men a week die by suicide.
We need the men in our lives to know that they are not alone.
It’s really okay to not be okay fellas.
Keep fighting. 💜
— James (@JamesConlon_) November 19, 2018
Men can often show toxic behavior because they are not expected to express their problems the way women do. Consequently, the become stressed and ill-mannered.
It’s important to have a day encouraging men to talk about issues that impact them because men find it so hard to express any emotional or mental pain directly. And that leads to depression, suicide, addiction, anger and all other kinds of toxic behaviour. #InternationalMensDay
— Matt Haig (@matthaig1) November 19, 2018
It’s Okay to Cry
And, they need to know that crying, weeping and shedding tears doesn’t make them lessor men; their masculinity still remains preserved.
My hope is that all of us men who have ever succumb to toxic masculinity and mask our pain and true selves find light today.
It’s okay to cry
It’s okay to be emotional
It’s okay to have weaknesses
It’s okay to be sensitive
It’s okay to feel overwhelmed#InternationalMensDay
— Frederick Joseph (@FredTJoseph) November 19, 2018
It is more about an inability to talk about one’s feelings.
Today is #InternationalMensDay. Yet, 31% of men said they would feel too embarrassed to seek help for a mental health problem.
Being in your friend’s corner could make a real difference to their life. So, if you notice your mate is acting differently, reach out. pic.twitter.com/kbS1OEejGP
— Time to Change (@TimetoChange) November 19, 2018
Men Can Also Take Leave to Take Care of Their Kids
Well, this is the most important thing. On the eve of International men’s day there is an increased focus on gender equality and men’s right to take care of their kids, as the women have. Several bodies are raising the concern that men should also be given a paid paternity leave, so that they can contribute to brought up of their kids and get more mental satisfaction.
On #InternationalMensDay WE demand 12 weeks ‘use it or lose it’ shared parental leave, paid at 90 percent of pay. Because making it normal for fathers to share care of their children breaks down stereotyped expectations and increases men's levels of satisfaction and happiness.
— WomensEqualityUK (@WEP_UK) November 19, 2018